Life is full of patterns.
When we slow down and look at nature we realize how superbly organized she is into patterns. Sunrise and sunset. Tides. Weather. The seasons are patterns though they vary all over the world. It is summer somewhere when it is winter in another place. The pattern of seed, egg, birth or hatch, then mature, develop, decay and death exist in all aspects of lives from fruits to animals. We can look at a leaf and see a pattern that exists in other aspects of nature, art or architecture. Much research provides evidence that patterns offer mathematical formulas like fractals that get produced over and over and over again.
Your life is full of patterns.
Depending on how awake you are in your life, you already know the patterns that you have in your life. Obviously, many of us inherited patterns from our family. If our family were newspaper readers, chances are so are we. If our family were smokers, chances are so are we. If our family were raised baptists, chances are so are we. We inherit genes that give us patterns like our eye color or height but many other behaviors or habits we inherited are now our CHOICES.
Your lifestyle is your pattern.
We often get confused and feel that our lifestyle just rained on us. We think our personality molded us. We have no reason to try to do anything about it because we it’s just “Normal”. We fall in a trance in our lives and in our worlds feeling numb or powerless over the choices we make which give us a PATTERN in our life which in turn creates our reality.
CHOICE x TIME = PATTERN
Woah. You might say, I didn't chose this part of my life that’s happening to me right now. I didn’t want this thing to happen to me. Fair enough, bad things do happen. Awful things happen but we have to really calm it all down, quiet it all down and ask ourself this brutally, painful question:
“What is my role in creating this pattern?”
You won’t know the answer straight away or if you do think you know ask yourself the next most important question.
“Is that really my role in creating this pattern?”
What is often most tragic about human patterns is that they are avoidable. Pain often is not but as is often said, suffering is optional. We can do ourselves great damage by trying to avoid pain. We can actually hurt ourselves in our efforts to avoid pain.
The key to finding our pattern is by first dropping all our judgment of ourselves. We can’t detect patterns if doing so furthers our suffering. For example, I have noticed my pattern is that I am very broke at the end of the month. So now what. Do nothing - Just observe the pattern. Look at it. Say “Hey pattern, what’s going on ?” Be with the pattern. Then ask yourself, “Do I want to keep going with this pattern?” and here’s the million dollar question:
“DO I WANT TO CONTINUE WITH THIS PATTERN OR HAVE I OUTGROWN IT?”
Maybe, yes, no.
No judgment. Just a CHOICE.
So you say, “I’ve outgrown this overspending each month and then feeling ashamed when I’m broke.”
Magic occurs now. Without even doing anything the pattern has been disrupted.
Viola. That is all it takes.
Einstein said “A problem cannot be solved at the level it was created.”
The only thing we can do with a pattern that no longer serves us is acknowledge that we are READY FOR A NEW CHOICE. Once, we create that opening in our awareness a new pattern will emerge. Just like we clear away the dead limbs of a plant and new limbs grow. Just like new lambs are born every Spring. Just like when you take your feet out of the sand at the edge of the Ocean, the space fills back up.
When we disrupt a pattern, even in the smallest of ways the change is enormous. The greatest lie we tell ourselves is that we are powerless. We never are even when faced with horrible huge burdens we can alter our patterns and experience tremendous growth and even FREEDOM.
POSITIVE CHOICES x TIME = PATTERNS OF FREEDOM
SO take the time to really know yourself. Learn to identify the patterns which really serve you and deserve your gratitude. Praise them, honor them and make more space for them. But those tired, jaded, painful patterns, allow yourself to see them for what they truly are and thank them for whatever lessons they taught you. I guarantee any pattern you have even most disgusting or pathetic was born out of a seed of need. You needed that pattern. But maybe, just maybe you don’t anymore.
LOVE yourself into your awareness. That’s all.
Patterns. Yours to chose and yours to disrupt. Anytime. Anywhere. As long at you are ready. And if you fall back into your old pattern, then that’s fine. You probably will until you’re really ready. Love yourself into readiness and set yourself free of any pattern that’s kept you a slave.